Arudra Darsanam. Vision of Love.

All festivals and religious rituals have only one objective.

Each one of them reminds me of the One entity that is constantly present in my life everywhere, every moment and in every which way.

I sorely need this reminder because I forget Its presence most of the time.

The Arudra Darsanam festival is one such reminder gift.

Importance of viewing Shiva's dance

Cosmic Dance

Arudra Darsanam celebrates the dance of the cosmos. There is a supreme king who is doing this cosmic dance. He is called Nataraja  [Nata – dance, Raja -king].

I can experience the magnitude and the majesty of His dance very easily when I see how my body dances to the beat of my heart  and how my mind dances to the beat of my desires. If I open my awareness a bit more, I can see His dance in the leaves of a tree moving gently caressed by the whiff of a wind and in the sky opening up with thunderous pour to quench a parched earth. The sun, the moon, the planets and the stars all travel at break-neck speed in their orbits to the beat of His dance as do the electrons around the nucleus of an atom. A child smiles sweetly in step with His Dance but an angry man yells ferociously out of step with His Dance.

His steps are the steps of Love. When I dance in step with His Step, my dance is beautiful and elegant. My life then becomes an exhilaratingly peaceful experience. When I dance awkwardly not keeping step with His Step, I fall down and suffer. But the Cosmic Dancer doesn’t give up on me. He patiently teaches me till I learn to dance well. As a teacher, He is called Rudra.

As a dancer, He is called Nataraja. As a teacher who teaches me this dance, He is called Rudra.

The name Rudra is a powerful lesson in itself.

Rodayatiti iti rudrah – one who makes me cry is Rudra.

Rutam davayati iti rudrah – one who removes the cause of my suffering  is Rudra.

Rudra does both. He makes me cry and also removes my tears.

If I want to have a safe journey while travelling in my car, I must follow the rules and regulations of the road. In the same way, to travel safely in the road of my life, I must follow certain rules and regulations in attitude, approach and actions in my living.

“Speak the truth” is one such rule. When I don’t, I lose my peace of mind and suffer. “Hurt never” is another rule. When I don’t obey it and hurt someone else or myself, I suffer. “Be loving to all under all circumstances” is another rule. Even if I do a little bit of this, I find it gives me peace of mind. Scriptures outline many such rules and regulations – both do’s and don’ts – to help me live peacefully and happily.

Some of the rules are easier to follow than others, true. But they all fundamentally boil down to one thing only – “Live in Love”. When I don’t follow this rule and instead live in selfishness, I undergo pain and pleasure, suffer and do not have peace of mind. Selfishness is not in sync with the cosmic dance. Rudra, the Cosmic teacher, points this out in the form of the suffering that He sends my way. Once I understand the root cause of my suffering, I can then wish to eliminate it. Rudra, the Cosmic teacher, then fulfills this wish and eliminates the cause of my suffering as well. The problem definition and solution are two sides of the same coin:

“Man – selfishness = God”

In the cosmic dance of my life, Rudra teaches me that selfishness is the root cause for all my sufferings. The moment I sincerely want to end my sufferings, I will sincerely want to decrease and eventually eliminate my selfishness. The moment I begin the necessary disciplines to do that, Rudra shows me the way. So I welcome Him in my life. I say “Come, Rudra.” “Come. Grant me your vision”

“Come, Rudra. Grant me your vision”. This, to me, is “Arudra Darsanam”, “Vision of Love”. [Arudra – come, Rudra. “Darsanam” – Vision]

In the sanatana dharmic calendar, the six months period corresponding to mid-July to mid-January, is the night time for the devas (the beneficial tendencies in me). The last part of this period is very conducive to have the Vision of Love. To capitalize on this facile feature, I need to do certain preparatory steps well. These preparatory steps are a series of festivals during this six months period. When celebrated with the right understanding, spirit and discipline, they purify my mind and elevate me to be a recipient of Arudra darsanam.

Arudra Darsanam image.003Every festival is a reminder to live in Love to have the vision of Love. In the examples given above:

  1. “Mahalaya Paksham” festival teaches me to live in contentment and gratitude

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  1.  “Navaratri” festival teaches me to develop purity and alignment in thought, word and deed.  “Vijaya Dasami” festival teaches me to do that by focusing on Love.


  1. “Deepavali” festival teaches me to light the lamp of Love to my ten senses and mind, and live in Love.


  1. “Kaartikai” festival teaches me to keep good thoughts day and night, avoid bad company and keep the lamp of Love within me shining.
  2.    “Vaikunta Ekadasi” festival teaches me to open the door to the Love within me, by controlling my senses and mind and by keeping Its constant company, 


When I open the door of the Love within me, I have Its Vision and see It. Then I cry. These tears are tears of happiness and bliss. Rodayatiti iti rudrah – the One who makes you cry is Rudra. This is Arudra Darsanam.

Disciplines taught by these various festivals, when practised, purify my mind progressively and confidently. When the mind becomes pure in the constant company of Love, it reflects my Hrudayam (Seat of Love. Spiritual heart) in full glory, just as the full moon reflects the sun’s light. Cool and comforting. Hence Arudra Darsanam festival is celebrated on the full moon day in the Tamil month Margazhi when the ruling star is Arudra. [This year, it falls on December 23,2018]

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Om Namo Bhagavate Rudraaya

I bow and worship Rudra, who is the constant, unchanging effulgence in all places, at all times, in all manners


Religious rituals – The daily worship

Religious rituals help bring out the spiritual in me.

[Turning the mind to the welfare of others]

If I don’t transform into a less selfish and more loving person through religious rituals, then I’ve wasted my life. If rituals have not produced a better me, a more accepting and a more selfless me, then I’ve not learned at all. If I have not gained confidence in the Love that I really am, then I lose out.

[Turning the mind to the heart]

A physiotherapist brings back a broken limb into full function with exercises. Religious rituals are the mental therapy exercises for my broken mind. They are designed to turn my mind away from the pride and anxiety of possessiveness to an attitude of sacrificing all to the soul within.

Let me illustrate with a short story.

I needed a means of livelihood. So I sought a job from a wealthy, influential person. But, instead of a job, he offered me a business partnership. He said he had vast tracks of land and was willing to give me a piece of it. I could grow grains and other produce in it, sell them and make my living. He assured that he’ll give me a shop to sell the produce from, help with sales and marketing and also invest money to start my business. In return he wanted a share in the business. I thought he would ask 90 – 95% share since he brought everything “to the table”. But he said he had sumptuous wealth and had no need for any more. Ten percent of the business is enough, he said. That too, not because he needed it but he would accept it as a token of my gratitude. I was wonderstruck and cut the deal with the stroke of this fortune.

My business picked up very nicely. As time rolled by, I made progressively more and more money. I expanded my shop. My clientele grew. And so did my bank balance. I bought a big house, luxury cars and even a pair of diamond necklaces for my wife. I put my children in prestigious private schools. Through all this, once in awhile, I thought of this unique person who helped and invested in me, and without whom I could not have achieved all this. I put away his share of ten percent regularly to give to him when I saw him again. Then as I became wealthier and wealthier, one day a thought occurred to me. “I’m doing all the hard work and growing my business. This partner of mine is nowhere to be seen. Why should I give him the ten percent?”

I stopped putting his share aside. At that moment, the wealthy person came and asked for his share. I told him he hasn’t done anything and all the wealth I’ve earned was only due to my work. “Why should I give you ten percent?” I asked him.

Tell me, if you were this person who invested in me and my business, what would you do?

You see, the Divine Entity is this wealthy and influential person in my life. He has given me everything I have, and have not. He has invested in me through and through. But for His Grace, I’ll not have the power to see, hear, taste, smell or touch this world. I’ll not have the life force and the strength of hope to live. I’ll not be able to think and imagine, speak and sing. I’ll not have the riches I have, the house, family and friends. I’ll not have the inclination to serve. The continuous cosmic dance that is taking place within me is His Grace only. My organs keep step with the beat of my heart – so I can breathe, eat, swallow, digest and excrete, so 50000 neurons can fire   in my brain at any given moment and electrons can safely travel at 200 mph speed within my body to keep me alive, so 5.6 liters blood can travel 12000 miles every day within my body hiding a miracle in plain view, so I can travel to the edge of the universe and return instantly with my mind. And the list of his investment in me goes on and on endlessly.


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[My amazing endowments]

Should I not express my gratitude to this endless endowment I have?

Daily worship in the puja (prayer) room is the time I dedicate to this divine investor in me to express my gratitude.

My sense is India is the only country in the world, where every household has a puja room. The puja room takes various shapes and forms. It can range from a separate spacious room in a wealthy mansion to a picture of a form of divinity nailed to a wall in a thatched hut. Whatever shape, size and form it takes place, the puja room in my home asserts that Bhagavan is an inseparable member of my family.


[Daily homely time with divinity]

Everyone in India spends some time daily in the puja room. This daily worship can range from a fleeting moment to an hour or two. It is a ritual, once undertaken, hooks you for life.

Ref: [1] [2][3][4][5][6][7] [8]

Rituals – Why Visit Temples?

You’ll agree there is something rejuvenating about visiting temples.

Temples are an elegant epiphany of art and science combined.


Aesthetic art [1]


Marvel of science and architecture. Sunset at equinox [2]

In every aspect of construction, temples exude aesthetic beauty.

The beckoning gopurams (monumental tower entrances),


The welcoming gopurams  [3]

The tall and wide entrance doors,


Temple entrances [4]

The broad and open circumambulating corridors

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Temple corridors [5] [6]

The benignly imposing pillars,

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Temple pillars [7] [8]

Every one of them, from the gopuram to the pillars, welcomes my eyes, mind and being itself. “Come on in, come on in” – they seem to say.

The architectural dimensions of height, length and breadth and their relative proportions in every part of the temple are a marvel of aesthetic beauty.

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Aesthetic architecture [9] [10] [11]

And what to speak of the insidious art work in a temple! They embrace you quietly from all directions. From the intricate sculptures on the gopurams and pillars to the artistic paintings on the corridor ceiling, they are a veritable feast for the eyes.

Art gallery exemplar [12] [13] [14] [15] [16] [17] [18] [19]

A temple is truly an art gallery. Each sculpture, each bas relief and each painting tells a powerful and soothing story from the timeless scriptures. Each one reminds me of the caressing fondness of morality and the love of divinity. Each piece of art puts my mind at ease, inspires me to think divine and think of divinity.


Embracing peace of mind [20]

Subliminally shaped into a peaceful frame of mind, I enter the inner sanctum of a temple.

Here  a form of the Divinity that is formless but dons all forms greets and welcomes me.

Sanctum Sanctorium of religions [21[ [22] [23] [24] [25]

When I focus on the Form Formless, I get a shot of confidence to live my life in a good way. I pray and receive assurance that all is well and will be well. I experience a precious divine moment, fleeting as it may be, completely decoupled from the buzzle of the world.

This is the reason why I visit the temple. The deeply personal and powerful moment, all alone with divinity itself. This moment has no worries, no anxieties, no wealth, no illness, no pride, no self-conceit, no frustrations, no fear, no hope, no relatives, no friends, no enemies, no nothing. Just me and my God.

This precious, rejuvenating moment is fleeting and fickle. But it is addictive. So I go for it daily.

Then one day it dawns on me that during this moment with divinity, my eyes are actually closed. I’m not seeing the form outside of me but within me only.

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[26] [27] [28]

That is when I hear the scriptural teaching from the elders,

The body is a temple. The indweller is divinity itself.

I give up the illusion that I’m separate from It

I pray and experience that I am It

Deho davalaya prokto

Devo jeevas sanatanah

Tyajeth ajnana nirmalyam

So hum bhavena poojayeth

I learn from my temple visits that I must decouple my mind from the external world and turn it inwards to look at the divinity within. The ritual of temple visit then becomes spiritual. To become spiritual is the gift of a ritual.

A ritual is a structured repetitive action. Every day, I’m involved in doing so many things. I think 50000-80000 thoughts; speak 7000-20000 words and do 50-200 actions in a day. But I do not think of God. I do not keep His Company. The ritual of visiting temple is structured to facilitate, to induce and to inspire me to think of God.

When I think of Him, I spend a moment with Him.  

What more do I really need than a moment with God as I run from pillar to post in my daily life?

Of what use are rituals if there is no transformation in one’s thinking and behavior? [Paraphrasing a teaching from Sri Sathya Sai Baba]  


[ Please also see Dream Temples , Temples-What good they do?]  

Religious Rituals? Count me out please.



Religious rituals are actually pretty important in life. They are like a crutch. I don’t need the crutch once I learn how to walk properly. But till I do, if I don’t want to fall, I must use the crutch. In the same way, I need religious rituals till I learn to live lovingly and non-violently.

I accept several rituals willingly as necessary in the course of my daily life.

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[Image credits 1, 2, 3]

But when it comes to religious rituals, I crib and resist. I abstain and bypass. Why should I do these rituals, I think. They are a waste of time, uncouth and meaningless. I convince myself so and ignore them in my life.

In South India, where I grew up, religious rituals were a way of life. We had daily religious rituals at home. Special occasions piled on additional demands. Birth, death, marriage, barber-shop visits, naming the new-born baby, transitioning the new-born from milk to solid food – all brought on their own additional activities. There were rituals for different phases of the moon, sojourns of the sun, days of the week, dawn, noon and dusk, arrival of the seasons, festivals and celebrations. And whatever else you name, we had a religious ritual for it.

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Religious rituals galore where I grew up. [1] [2]

Paucity of funds never stopped or even slowed down these activities. No, not at all. The religious rituals hummed along merrily throughout the day, week, month and year.

Some of these rituals provided a blanket of comfort and peace. Some brought the excitement of anticipation and the joy of fulfillment. Some brought sheer thrill in their wake. But several of them, I must admit, were outright boring.

When I moved to a far away land, I left the religious rituals behind. Rather the rituals left me. Number of years later, a time came when I missed them. I wanted to bring these rituals back in my life. But before I did that I was curious to understand why I missed them. What is it about these mostly boring and time-consuming activities that I really longed for them?

I wondered what these rituals actually mean. And was humbled to discover that each one of them was only an action of peace, generosity and well being. Peace and well being not only for me and my family but for the whole world. I can’t deny that I felt a sense of awe and gratitude to my ancestors who have given me such wonderful things to do in life. Truly, what can be more gratifying than an activity that promotes the wellbeing of all?

The selfless goodness in these religious rituals was what was beckoning me to get back to them. I realized that a ritual has been prescribed to train and develop me into a selfless good person.

  • The various rituals with which the Lord is worshipped with is for the satisfaction of the mind which craves for personal contact with the Supreme.
  • These are karmas of high order that lead to spiritual wisdom.
    • First start with the idea, “I am in the Light”
    • Then you experience, “The light is in me”
    • This leads to the conviction, “I am the Light!”
  • That is supreme wisdom!  

– Sathya Sai Baba

I’ll share a few glimpses of the goodness that religious rituals offer in the upcoming posts.

A scratch, an itch and the “99 Club”

I know scratch. And I know itch. But I did not know about the “99 Club” till recently. I learned about it through a whatsapp forward. I also learned another fact I did not know – that I’m a life member in it!

The “99 Club” must be one of the largest clubs in the world in terms of membership, I think.

The story about this club goes something like this.

99 Club.00199 Club.00299 Club.00399 Club.00499 Club.00599 Club.00699 Club.007

This is the “99 Club” I also belong to at present. Always looking for that 100th coin. And losing my happiness and peace of mind in that process.

Wanting money scratches the skin of my mind. If I scratch it repeatedly, it becomes the itch of greed. Then I join the “99 Club”.

Greed is not worth it. Seriously. It can give more wealth, power and an exalted position in the society. But it robs my happiness. People may bow down to me. But I live devoid of their respect and love. With greed, I live only a false life, a life of pretenses, anger, fear and even a touch of cruelty.

The “99 Club” is, in a sense, a mental hospital only. The members are patients with the mental illness called the greed-itch. Greed is a doorway to hell itself, says the Bhagavad Gita [lobhah narakasya idam dwaaram… 16. 21 ]

The only medicine that will cure this itch and get me out of this hospital is the cooling balm of contentment.  

Contentment is a very good thing. In fact, it is the most precious gift I can give to myself. Adi Sankara teaches this succinctly and powerfully in Bhaja Govindam.

99 Club.008I have enough. Really. Once I realize I do have enough, I regain my happiness and peace of mind. Then life becomes the wonderful and amazing journey that it really is.


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Marriage and World Peace

World peace is not the impossibility it seems. It is very much doable. I just need to build its foundation, the family unit, properly. That’s all. The mansion of world peace will rise on this foundation by itself.

How so? How does building the foundation of a good family help in building world peace?

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[Photograph – author. Image Insert source]

I learn the first step to world peace, “righteousness in heart”, in my family.


My family [Source]

Family is founded on the sanctity of marriage. Most of us lead married lives only. Married life has much power. It also has bountiful responsibilities. It shapes and gives life-helping pathways to human beings.

My family environment can bring out the animal, the human or the divine in me. My conduct, shaped in my family, contributes to peace or violence in the world.

are-you-ready-for-biker-dating      What is a “family”?

To the new born, it starts with the mother, then expands to include the father and siblings. 

are-you-ready-for-biker-dating     Where does “the family” end?

With the experience and awareness that the whole world is one family. Vasudevaika kudumbakam.

are-you-ready-for-biker-dating       What! How is that possible? I’m overwhelmed.

No need to be. Even a marathon is run with one step at a time. One step at a time.

are-you-ready-for-biker-dating       What is this one step?

The step of dharma. The step of righteous conduct.

are-you-ready-for-biker-dating      Where do I learn this step?

I don’t learn it. I’m born in it, with it. 

are-you-ready-for-biker-dating      If I already have it, then what do I do with it?

I must practice it. I must ensure my conduct is righteous.

are-you-ready-for-biker-dating      Where do I practice it first? 

In my family.

are-you-ready-for-biker-dating      How so?

First, the family is set up by wife and husband in a righteous way. It functions in a dharmic manner, spreading love and harmony. The wife fulfills her dharma and the husband his. Together they sacrifice and build this fantastic mansion called the family. This mansion really becomes one’s home on earth. 

are-you-ready-for-biker-dating       Umm, interesting! Then?

Second, they bring forth another human being in a righteous way in to this family

are-you-ready-for-biker-dating       Why do they do that? There are already too many human beings on this earth and most of them are suffering too much!

That’s exactly why!  To reduce the sufferings in the world, to help and care for the needy, to promote goodness and love, a child is brought into this world.

are-you-ready-for-biker-dating        A mere child can do that?

Of course! Not any child. But a good child.

are-you-ready-for-biker-dating        But a new born doesn’t know good or bad!

Exactly! This is where the mother and father teach through their own trials, preach through their practices. So the child can imbibe easily.

are-you-ready-for-biker-dating       What does the child learn?

When the mother and father conduct themselves with righteousness, then …

are-you-ready-for-biker-dating       Then, what?

Then, the child grows with righteousness in heart

are-you-ready-for-biker-dating       If the child has righteousness in heart, then what?

Then, there is beauty in its character!

are-you-ready-for-biker-dating       So? Then what?

When there is beauty in character, then, guess what?

are-you-ready-for-biker-dating       What?

There will be harmony at home!

are-you-ready-for-biker-dating       Harmony? Seems far-fetched. Impossible!

Not really. Very much doable. It is no different from joining a fitness club to work out my muscles so they become stronger and do things that were not initially possible.

are-you-ready-for-biker-dating       How so? Which fitness club should I join to achieve this?

The 24 Hr Fitness club of course.  We are all members in this automatically.  We call this fitness club “the family”!

are-you-ready-for-biker-dating       What muscles do I exercise in this club?

The Muscle of Righteousness. The Muscle of Character. The Muscle of Harmony.

are-you-ready-for-biker-dating       What exercises are prescribed for them and how does the Family unit help ?

The Muscle of Righteousness becomes stronger the more I use it. The more loving and selfless thoughts and actions I practice, the more loving and selfless I become. 

The Muscle of Character becomes stronger the more I use it. The more I do things beneficial to others, the more selective I’m in keeping good company, the healthier my character becomes. 

The Muscle of Harmony becomes stronger the more I use it. The more I understand and harmonize difference of opinions, the stronger the togetherness and harmony.

are-you-ready-for-biker-dating       The family unit is the gymnasium to develop this togetherness and harmony?


are-you-ready-for-biker-dating       The child imbibes this life principle in the family unit?


are-you-ready-for-biker-dating       And develops into a good person?


are-you-ready-for-biker-dating       Who else benefits?

The mother and father also benefit, of course. 

are-you-ready-for-biker-dating        Let me get this. A man and a woman  – two absolute strangers – meet, get married, start a family unit and live righteously. The result is not only they become better human beings but they inspire goodness in another human being also. Right? 


are-you-ready-for-biker-dating        Why get married to do this? Why not “live together” and achieve the same end result?

No, it is not possible to achieve the same result that way. The sanctity of marriage is like the driving license to drive a car. I can drive without a license but I’ll not have peace of mind. I will incur difficulties. Marriage is the building block of righteousness, moral discipline and duty in the society

are-you-ready-for-biker-dating       You are long-winded! Let me summarize. The role of the family unit is to promote righteousness in heart which gives beauty of character and results in harmony in home. Correct?


are-you-ready-for-biker-dating       But there are bound to be ups and downs in family life. There are bound to be differences of opinions and arguments. How can there be harmony? Doesn’t harmony mean absence of differences of opinion?

No. On the contrary. The enchantment of the world lies in its variety. No two people think alike always. The game of life lies in harmonizing these differences. The mantra is “understand and adjust”. The beauty of this harmonizing act and result are to be experienced to be believed. It is really great!

are-you-ready-for-biker-dating        Ok, ok. We get harmony in the home. Then what?

When there is harmony in the home, there will be order in the nation.

are-you-ready-for-biker-dating        That makes sense. If every home is harmonious, then there will be order in the nation. Then, what?

When there is order in the nation, there will be peace in the world.

are-you-ready-for-biker-dating       What a powerful truth! Let me get this straight. The world’s peace is built upon order in nations, which is built on individual home’s harmony which shines in the beauty of character arising out of dharmic behavior of individuals in the family. So the peace of the world, the well being of my fellow human beings and myself, is directly dependent on the family that I build?


are-you-ready-for-biker-dating       So, a man and a woman joining together in marriage is more than a physical union?


are-you-ready-for-biker-dating       It is more than a mental union?


are-you-ready-for-biker-dating       It is more than an emotional union?


are-you-ready-for-biker-dating        It is a spiritual union of sacrifice, discipline and duty?


are-you-ready-for-biker-dating       It is a journey of mutual understanding, adjusting and harmonizing?


are-you-ready-for-biker-dating       It is a beautiful process of becoming better human beings?


are-you-ready-for-biker-dating       And all this to build the edifice of world peace with the family unit as one indispensable foundation block? 


are-you-ready-for-biker-dating        Wow! Married life – what an efficacious tool I have to build world peace!

Married life is

  • A beautiful thing
  • A treasure to be protected
  • A sapling to be nourished
  • A machine to be regularly oiled and repaired to be in top-notch shape
  • A sacred life of togetherness and harmony
  • A powerful journey to live in human values
  • A supporter and server of society
  • A bed-rock to lay the foundation of good family
  • A home where  where goodness in human beings is shaped
  • Where one learns to be peaceful and contented
  • Where one learns to make the world peaceful
  • Where one learns to make peace with the world

Mindfulness Moments: Cooperate or compete at work place?

A good friend recently asked  – how do I cooperate with my team members to achieve the team’s goal while simultaneously competing with them to get a better performance review rating for myself?

This seems like a dichotomy, doesn’t it? But it need not be. Both are two distinct and unconnected opportunities for self improvement only. Let me explain.


Do I love performance reviews or what? [Source]

Performance reviews are fundamentally nothing more than a charade. But they do provide one use. They offer a rational platform for allocating the meagre salary increase budget among employees.

  • Employee performance is a continuous thing. So, a good manager must monitor, guide, coach, strengthen or appreciate employee’s performance on a continuous basis.
  •           A good leader knows his or her people better than their mothers do and cares for them even more  – Sathya Sai Baba

Performance reviews in most companies are done annually. They lack the immediate and continuous care an employee can benefit from. Only when the employee is well cared for, will there be performance excellence in the true sense of the term.

  • My promotions, transfers, demotions and termination are done not based so much on annual performance reviews but on the organization’s changing needs and the preferential likes/dislikes of the boss.

The fact of the matter is, I can control only my performance – not its review.

  • How well do I perform, really?  I must seek ways to improve my performance continuously. To do that, I need to compete with myself, not with others.
  • “Win from within” says Usain Bolt, the Olympic champion.
  • Work done well is a step in peace. Yogah karmasu kowsalam – Bhagavad Gita [2.50]

When I do my job to the best of my ability and not be concerned with how the result turns out, how can I not be but peaceful and happy?.

Instead of dreading the annual performance review,  I can train myself to – however weird it may sound – actually welcome it. I can accept the comments that have merit in improving my ability and reject the rest without a bother. And then move on to continue doing the best job I can, for my own peace of mind.


Is this me? Really? [Source]

A bad or unfair performance review, especially one with a difficult-to-get along boss, can be unsettling. If this happens, it is time to change the boss or the company. Or go inwards to “win from within”.  Performance reviews, both bad and good, are nothing more than passing clouds. What is constant is my inherent ability to inspire myself to continuously learn and do better, without being agitated about the results. The results come of their own accord  – no point in sweating about it.

In short, performance reviews are not worth losing sleep over.



Some of us love team work, don’t we?[Source]

Team work, on the other hand, is a gold mine of opportunities to develop the skills of togetherness and empathy with others.  How do I harmonize the different opinions, working styles and personality pulls among the participants? How do I learn to let go of my own desire to control results and others’ behavior? How do I neutralize time pressure? How do I navigate through the varying levels of competencies and contributions among the team members? How do I develop and sustain a balanced mind-set in the face of provocation? And so on… Team work offers myriad mindfulness moments to expand my heart, to care for and serve others.

Truly, no man is an island. Man thrives only in the spirit of “togetherness”. A favorite vedic prayer of mine exhorts this truth:

May we live together. May we grow together. May we achieve great things together. May we shine in the resplendence of togetherness. May there be no disharmony among us.

saha naavatu. saha nau bhunaktu, saha veeryam karavaavahai. tejasvinaavadheetamastu. maa vidvishaamahai.


“Togetherness” – Part of one body [Source]

When I work in a team with this spirit of “togetherness”, regardless of whether others approach it the same way or not , then I’m able to cooperate with others in a natural way, much like the flow of a gentle breeze. Then the differences in the working styles, personalities and opinions of the team members impact me less. In addition to enthusiastically fulfilling my responsibilities, I’m then able to truly work for everyone’s success, not just mine.

When everyone in the team fulfills his/her role well in this spirit of togetherness, results can be fantastic indeed.


Wow! Team work at its best. [Source]

Life is largely team work only. If I engage life with the attitude of “togetherness”, then it is a peaceful step I’ve taken.  Team work is the “24 x7 fitness club” in my life to develop my mental muscles, expand my heart and become better at being “together”.

So, do I cooperate or compete at work place? I should do both. Not only at work place but throughout life itself.

  • Cooperate with others to help them succeed.
  • Compete with myself to do better.